Blogger exhaustion happens to the best of us. No really, we’re exhausted. Hahahaha! Get it? Cause we’re the best? No? Oh well… okay.
But, no seriously. If you’re looking at your life choices right now and feeling that same old exhaustion of blogging setting in, then we’re right there with you. I wanted to talk today about aspects of blogging that can be tiresome and lead to blogger exhaustion. And I’m going to get real with you guys here.
And it’s going to be easy for some people to not like what I’m saying because I’m not going to be diplomatic. I’m not being nice in this post. No pandering, no softening up the truth, just straight out facts about my blogging life that I can’t stand.
So I’m coming out and saying it like it is. Haters to the left.
1. Blog Tours
We know, we know. There are so many blog tours going around and we do a lot of them. The problem is, blog tours these days can get a little basic. And a lack of organisation can make some tours very painful to be on. The stories we could tell! And I’m sure many bloggers also have horror stories of trying to get tours up on time.
For example when you’re emailed and asked to be on a tour only to later be dropped by the publisher because they over booked it. Or when they don’t send you all the necessary promotional material and links and you don’t even know who else is on the tour. Then there’s last minute blog tours that need to be done at the drop of the hat and tour invites that make you sign up with the google doc. I mean, when you’re juggling organising five tours at once, it can be pretty exhausting on the blogger end. Especially something that is, in effect, a labour of love.
We keep telling ourselves over and over again that we’ll stop doing blog tours, but it never works because there’s a lot of authors out there that we do want to support and help promote, even if the blog tour sucks. We have yet to find a happy medium in this. And most of the publicists we work with are so wonderful that we don’t want to turn them down.
2. Reading Schedules
ARCs check in. Sometimes they don’t check out. There’s a lot of reasons to have a reading schedule. All of them suck. Okay, maybe we’re exaggerating. But one of the easiest ways to burn out as a blogger is to get bogged down in a reading schedule that isn’t working for you, slogging through books that you feel obligated to read even though you probably wouldn’t have picked them up to begin with. Then there’s the books you have to read for tours and interviews that weigh you down. Human beings are blessed with such an infinitesimally small lifespan. Such a limited number of minutes and book bloggers will spend some of those sacred moments of their life, the one and only life they get, reading books of which they have no interest in. Why? Because we feel like we should?
3. Promo Posts that lack Content
This one is pretty self explanatory. But when we’re given promo posts by publishers to do, and there’s literally no content? That gives me brain hurts. Brain hurts real bad. Thing is, I know sometimes a book has to be promoted even though the author can’t provide much content and blogs are the best way to do it. But, and forgive me for this, but when does that become my problem?
When I agree to do them, I guess. Which hurts my soul a little bit more each time. Why am I letting this make me miserable? Why am I letting this ruin my experience with my blog? Why am I allowing myself to feel like such a fraud for promoting stuff I barely even know on my own blog? I don’t know. I just don’t know.
But it seriously ends here.
Sometimes the most exhausting part of being a book blogger is all the drama that comes with it. I mean, this is Cuddlebuggery, so we know a little something about drama. Amirite? Hahahahaha, yes. Yes, I am.
But you may have noticed that we try more and more not to get dragged into drama on the blog. Our personal twitter accounts not withstanding, we try to leave the drama llamas with their mamas. We’re not saying anyone else should, because I think sometimes there absolutely needs to be drama. Is that a weird thing to say? I don’t care. Some things are worth making a big deal about. Kicking up a stink for. Never fear that Meg, Steph and I will kick up a stink for something we think is worthwhile and necessary. For a fight worth having.
I felt in the beginning, back when Cuddlebuggery first started, that there wasn’t a lot of protection for bloggers who got targeted by authors for attack. That they were often isolated and felt defenceless and little alone, even though I was by no means the only person campaigning for reader’s rights. I always wanted to be there to support them, to make people aware of the situation they were going through etc. But I don’t feel that need anymore. Not when there are hundreds of other bloggers around doing a brilliant job of protecting each other, looking out for each other, acting like a community. This makes me so incredibly happy to be part of this group of people. And I just want to take this opportunity to say thank you to all those bloggers who stand up for each other and show each other support during difficult times. You’re amazing.
Seeing the disrespect shown to bloggers like it was the other day? That’s not so awesome, and that stuff makes me TIRED. And I’m sick of the constant implication that bloggers are a ravaging pack of high school girls ready to take down some poor innocent author like a pride of lionesses to a gazelle. I hate it. Because my peeps are awesome. But my peeps also don’t really need me sticking up for them. They’re badass enough to stick up for themselves. So I think I’m gonna bow out a little bit more.
5. A Deluge of Annoying Emails
I was tweeting the other day about some of the ridiculous books we get pitched and I was not so happy to see that Cuddlebuggery isn’t alone in the absurd books we get asked to read. When I started blogging, I thought the constant posting would be the thing to get me down, but actually, its the thousands of administrative duties that come with it. Receiving dozens of emails every day, most of which are spam and shouldn’t be coming to us at all, is incredibly frustrating. The constant fight to stay organised – it’s not something that comes easily to me. And it’s not helped by all the emails I get every day for the likes of Christian books or non fiction books or memoirs for people I’ve never even heard of. And the Press Releases. For stuff that has nothing to do with YA. All this comes streaming into our inbox before we even start our blogging day. It’s exhausting to sort through and I’m sick of it. As I’m writing this, I just received an email about a book regarding spiritual journeys of golfers. SPIRITUAL JOURNEYS OF GOLFERS. What the ever-loving fuck?!
So. Over. It.
So what to do about it?
I’m not in the business of telling other people what to do with their blogs. But I’m kind of over caring about what people think of mine. So, I’m getting rid of all the things that make me hate blogging. Steph, Meg and I are freeballing our way through it, trying to get back to our beloved roots. We’re not perfect. We’re never going to be. And here’s a fact, nobody is.
I’m personally sick of poorly organised blog tours and reading schedules that make me scream and feeling slightly abused by the system. I want to be clear, it’s not anyone’s fault I feel this way. No publicist or author or person has done me wrong. But I really want to go back to how blogging used to be for me, and what it used to be like. Where things were more personal and we were more passionate about our content and there were more discussion posts and just talking to people and feeling part of something.
So If some aspect of blogging is getting you down, remember, your blog is YOUR space. You don’t have to do nothing for nobody. Just put on that black, spangly corset and garter belt and dance your way through the problems into fabulousness.
Because, my friends, that’s exactly what I’ll be doing.